The Day I Fired My Mother

The Day I Fired My Mother

Mothers come in varied sizes and temperaments and for the most part, they mean well and do their best. My mother’s best was to remain on high alert to danger and threat. That pretty much meant that she saw the world through fear tainted eyes which included distrust of ethnic groups, people in general, new situations (almost everything), dark threats in the night, and lots of “what ifs.” This is not to say that she wasn’t a loving, generous mother because she was. It is to say that she had lots of issues and hang-ups that translated to fear-based ideas with the intention that she was keeping her children safe.

The day I noticed that I had to fire my mother I was shopping. On a whim, I decided that I wanted a new blue skirt. Thus, I proceeded to the nearest department store to purchase one. With just the thought of disbursing money toward “another” blue skirt, I heard my mother’s voice. (Note: Even though she had departed the physical plane years before, her “voice” was still running loud in my mind.) You know! Everyone has voices in their head. They are basically the programmed ideas and beliefs you were handed in life. This is good; that is bad; watch out for that, be afraid of whatever etc. For some folks it went as far as, you’ll never amount to anything, don’t ever look stupid (take a risk, jump out of the familiar box), and never make a mistake?! (Lots of luck!!) My mother had many of these edicts and rules. I would have to say that the program she instilled was a dominant one.

On this day, while I was shopping, I caught the program (idea/belief) as it entered my mind. “You don’t need a blue skirt,” she ranted. As her voice sounded in my mind, I reacted … with anger. I rebelled. I am not going to live out of fear and neediness. I am going after what I want and right now, I want a blue skirt. (Need seemed to be the family credo… Do you really need it? Don’t buy anything unless you need it.)

So now in the middle of the department store I am having an argument with my mother who wasn’t even there. Yet even though the whole idea sounds hysterically funny, I was dead serious about refusing my mother’s fear-based thought system. So, there we were. Mom: You already have two blue skirts. Me: I will have as many blue skirts as I want. Maybe I’ll buy a dozen blue skirts.

With that I grabbed the skirt from the rack and threw it on the check out counter. I am buying this skirt and I don’t need it – so there. It sounds like a kid rebelling against his parent and that is exactly what I was doing. I was rebelling against the fear, lack, and limitation I had grown up with. I was calling it quits on that program and replacing it with another one. I was choosing to live in abundance, love, expansion, and limitlessness. I was declaring my freedom from a tyrannical mindset that would attempt to keep me small.

Me: Mom, you are fired. You are not allowed to bring your negative program into my mind again. And that was when I banished a whole series of limiting, small, irrational, fear-based belief systems. Of course, the other end of this scenario is that I had to replace the old programs, beliefs and ideas with new ones that more clearly appropriated what I wanted. Easy-peasy! Once I caught on to the process, I knew what to do.

New program: I live in abundance. Every day and in every way, I receive the abundance of the Universe – ideas, friends, experiences, money, love, kindness etc. I see the possibility in all things. I am continually blessed. I am love as I am made in the image and likeness of God. Love is my expression. My life is without limit. A breakthrough, a new beginning. Yes, mom’s voice (program) had been around for a long time, but that day I put a stop to it because fear and negativity was at its core and I was done with it. I drew a line in the sand. She was fearful and I refused to be.

In the meantime, I have worked with thousands of folks who are still listening to the negative programs they were handed by society, media, relatives, teachers, friends, people who LOVE them, the world. These brain pathways create havoc, keep people small, risk-adverse, backward, shy, and afraid. Yet at any time, they/you can break the cycle and say NO. And when you do, be sure to say YES to something better. It might not be your mother you fire (demand departure from your mind) but whoever it is, the alteration that occurs will bring you freedom, confidence, authenticity, and joy.

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